The Anti-Panic Passover Guide

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Revised December 1999

*Note: I am back from a wonderful vacation and have redone this page. It is now divided into sections to help you get around better. Before only a small portion of this was up and going. So now it should work, okay? Let me know if you copy this off, please? I really like to hear from people that use it.

It doesn't take long to drop me a note, okay?
Just click on the blue line right here or the picture of the globe and it will set you up
with an email addressed to me, okay? Thanks! Cheryle

This Guide is the special work of Cheryle Holeman, founder of HaY'Did (The Friend) Ministries, Inc. Preparing for Passover requires a lot of planning and effort. To make the Passover celebration a delightful occasion for all, Cheryle felt the need to communicate her special secrets.

Preparing for the holidays may be quite an ordeal. However, with proper planning and preparing, it doesn't need to be this way. By following the suggestions in this Anti-Panic Passover Guide you, too, will be able to experience the joy of Passover, making this "The Season of YOUR Freedom."

This book is no longer available in printed form. Please, feel free to print this off for your personal use at any time. Cheryle

The Anti-Panic Passover Guide

Table of Contents

Section One: (These topics appear on this page)
Why do a Passover?
A Note to the Coordinator
Testimony: Our First Passover

Section Two:
Volunteer Job Descriptions
Time Table

Section Three:
Shopping List for 60 people
Shopping List for 4-6 people
Party Agreement with Hotel

Section Four:
Guidelines for your Passover Seder Meal
The Meaning of Chametz and Matzah

Section Five:
(Also see for other ideas on recipes)

Section Six:
Appreciation to Volunteers (More in the printed edition)
Craft Ideas
Songs for a Seder
Listing of Associate Ministries
Resource List
Table Setting (Diagram)


Servant Leadership

"Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Messiah, but he that is greatest among you shall be your servant." Matthew 23:10-11

"For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you. Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent you." John 13:15-16

Definition of "Christian Leadership": from Feeding and Leading by Kenneth Gangel:

"The exercise of one's spiritual gifts under the call of God to serve a certain group of people in achieving the goals God has given them toward the end of glorifying Christ (Messiah)."

Pray! Pray! Pray!

Why do a Passover Seder?

Looking back, I have always organized events and concerts, but now I wanted to celebrate a Passover Seder, just one Passover Seder. After that first Passover Seder, I could not believe how God changed my life and walk with Him, and it all started with one Seder!

Yeshua/Jesus began to be revealed to me as I never before saw Him through the Scriptures. This was the beginning of the deeper walk I so earnestly desired from the Lord. Today, I have experienced many Seders. Each year I see the hand of God working in the hearts and lives of people as I never saw Him work in any church up to this time. I have seen healing and miracles take place during our Passover Seder's! Through Passover, I have seen the revelation of Yeshua/Jesus not only as my Savior and Messiah, but also as my Bridegroom. Passover has allowed me to experience so much that I will never be the same person again. I pray that you, too, will want to celebrate "just one Passover" and see how God will transform and change your life as well.

The Anti-Panic Passover Guide is designed for your Seder, whether it's for family or a group of several hundred. You may want to color code sections that apply to your particular sized group. As you experience your first Seder, you are encouraged to take notes for next year. Once you have been through one Passover, you will recognize that you will want to celebrate many more.

The Anti-Panic Passover Guide consists of anecdotes, lists, timetables, job descriptions, recipes, music and ideas. All of these are designed to help your Passover Seder run smoothly. But, most importantly, don't forget to PRAY! The enemy will try everything possible to disrupt your Passover preparations, but pray and keep marching onward. When I observe Passover, I take the time to listen to God. He directs every part of our event. My volunteers know the power of listening and praying to God.

Before you begin your Seder, realize that I worked with an army of volunteers for my first Passover. So, please bear in mind that notations in this Guide are directed for a large group.

My husband and I have celebrated Passover with only the two of us and I used ideas presented in this Guide. You will need to read through the group suggestions, then decide if any apply to your situation. The recipes are for small groups so you will need to size them accordingly. I tried to write this Guide as flexible as possible.

I wish that I could be there at all your Passover Seders! I wish---like your mother wanted to do for you---that I could take the lumps for you. I wish that I could say, AThis will be an easy task filled with joy!...but I can"t. Yes, there will be joy! Yes, there will be hard work. But most of all, you and your volunteers are about to embark on MISSION IMPOSSIBLE... HaSatan will throw things at you every step of the way! So don't stop! Just keep on going!

The Passover Seder is designed by God with children in mind. We should come to God as children. These festivals teach us to participate in a rehearsal to receive Yeshua/Jesus as the Messiah into our lives. The Passover shows and explains His death, burial and resurrection in great detail. The fun begins with the youngest child present saying or singing the "Four Questions". Later at the Seder when the "afikoman" (matzah wrapped in white linen) is buried, all the children (under 12 years of age) join in the search to find it. The bargaining begins when it is found, and then evening is on hold until a Aprice is paid to redeem the matzah@ wrapped in linen! On and on the Passover Seder teaches about Yeshua=s sacrifice in our lives, and that we must come with the attitude of a child.

In conclusion, I hope the Anti-Panic Passover Guide will be a great blessing for you and that it will help make your Passover the best ever!


Cheryle Holeman

A Note to the Coordinator From Cheryle:

Hello, Brave Heart!

I want you to know that there are four questions that I always ask myself when I am working with a group:

*Who do I delegate this to that will handle it with prayer?
*Will this person meet deadlines and work well with people?
*Who is the busiest people that I know?
*How will I show my appreciate to my volunteers during and after the event?

I am looking to build a successful team. I have done "Job interviews" in the grocery stores with people that I have met. Everyone has a strong point or a job that they like to do more than anything else, and I ask questions about people that I meet and know. Some like hours of licking stamps, others will read letters for hours, and still others just love to file. Some love soliciting for donations and have no problem asking for checks or celery. Others would shrink from even asking for celery, but two ladies that I know always show up with cinnamon rolls for the workers, if you will just call them. A good coordinator keeps lists with names on them at all times. A good coordinator knows how to use the gifts that God has given to each person that will complement the team. I use handicapped workers from a workshop, and I tap into the network of non-profit organizations in area towns. You will find that people who are volunteers for an organization will usually (1) help you, or (2) refer you to someone who can help you. The busiest people will usually make time for you, while the ones that have lots of time generally don't have time for you.

Building the successful team takes planning sessions and meetings. We do a lot of covered dish dinners and picnics at the park with our volunteers locally. I sold insurance and learned to hate the telephone. Now it is an essential part of my work. I ask my volunteers to become my friends! We've tried to make this book like a conversation instead of just a list of things to do. If you have questions---write them down and email them to us! We are user friendly!

I encourage you to attend a Passover Seder in person before doing one for your church or town. But, I won't discourage you if there isn't one available in your area. We start planning our Seder right after Chanukkah, but it can be done in less time, too.

Another good resource that may be right there in your community is a Jewish synagogue or temple. They usually have a gift shop and can be very helpful in locating such things as a Seder plate (the head table should have a nice one even if you use something else on the other tables), song tapes, cookbooks, and more! Our local Jewish center invited us to attend their Passover Seder, too.

Shalom, and if we can help, please email or call us! If you use our book, please write us afterwards to let us know how it went. We do care about you!

Cheryle Holeman

All Coordinators Need a Good Laugh?

Testimony: Our First Passover

Now we could do one with our eyes closed almost, but that sure wasn't how it seemed that first year... For several years we had been presenting Christian events within our community. We'd worked with some of the finest Christian entertainers to evangelize our little corner of Kansas. God had called us to study and to know our calling, and all around us pastors encouraged us in our area to walk in that calling. We moved freely within all the denominations without strife or division. We would just explain to the people that we talked to that we were called to present events that were free, and open to the public crossing denominational lines using public buildings and facilities. Always we saw His Hand at work. Lutheran would work beside a Pentecostal, and across the room would be a Baptist working at setting up a set with a Methodist. Over and over again, the L-rd blessed the work that HE had called us to, and we gave HIM all the praise and the glory. A community spirit of fellowship abounded whenever we would come together. But one day, we encountered a teaching that made us examine the's never been the same! All we wanted was to do one simple passover! Our lives have been changed forever as a result!... If you are brave, and want your life changed, too, then you will want to read on...

"Don't panic! Everything will be okay! Just make it through the music and then you can walk out!" These were the words of wisdom that my mother shared with me at "blast off time" at our first Passover Seder. Everything that could have gone wrong--DID! Everything! It was a disaster! But my mother calmed me down enough to stand up and greet the 158 people who had come to our biggest function at the fanciest hotel in town, and with determination I was going to make it through the music at the beginning of the service, and THEN go home by the back door and cry! Yes, that was what I would do!

For months--even years--I had done events in our area of the country and nothing had ever been so hard! NOTHING! So, I smiled my false smile of welcome, greeted the guests, and turned it over to the leader. I sat down with my husband, mother, and family with the determination to "just make it through the music," then sneak out the back door and GO HOME!"

The music began, and then the peace came! I don't know how to describe it, except that all the panic, fear and worries left! It didn't matter that everything had gone wrong! It only mattered that I was part of this great evening of seeing Yeshua revealed as The Messiah! I sat there and watched as lives around me were changed. And now, years later, I can say that even YOUR life will be changed when you read this story. Who would have thought that you and I would be having this conversation? Who would have dreamed that my desire to have a few friends over to do a passover, would touch lives around the world--yours included! He is a wonderful Messiah, isn't HE? HE knew way back then, that someday I would be sitting here on a freezing sub-zero day in Kansas telling you about that candle lit night so long ago.

We contacted a messianic teacher back then, who sent me up a haggadah (half in Hebrew -so who could read it, right?) and one sheet of paper with a recipe for charoset (apple sauce mixture) on it. That's it. Nothing else. So I thought to myself, "How hard can this be?" WRONG! The closer I got the more paniced I became (Hence, the book titled The Anti-Panic Passover Guide later was written, okay?)

No where in rural Kansas does anyone know diddly-squat [that's Kansas slang for "less than a hill of sunflower paste"] about a passover. Nope! And believe me, the more I kept searching for information, the more I came to realize that I was a lost little girl and was going down the tube fast! "Glug! Glug!"...

I kept calling the ministry that we had contracted with about questions and they sounded totally worn out from my questions. They kept saying, "That's in the haggadah. Just read it." I would read it, but it was in HEBREW!!! So, now what?????? Just more and more panic!

A week before the event, I heard through the local grapevine that the hotel had been sold. "Great," I thought, "Now what could go wrong?" So I "dropped by" to see the manager. Guess what? He was no longer employed there, and the new people had no idea what I was talking about. Panic really set in! But I took a deep breath, and sat them down for a meeting. Their eyes were as glazed as mine by the time I had finished. They didn't understand even a third of the things that I had said with my badly pronounced Hebrew mixed in! They tried to be polite---God bless them all---but they looked like a crew ready to mutiny! I promised that I would be back OFTEN to answer their questions (after I went home to thumb furiously through that Hebrew haggadah myself in between meetings!).

Remember that one sheet of paper that I was sent? Guess what? I lost it the day before the event. I went up to the leader and asked if his staff would give me the recipe over the phone. He said, "Cheryle, it's the sabbath. They won't answer the phone on the sabbath." I left and went to the phone to call any way. Guess what? They didn't answer their phone. I prayed fervently while my friend and I cut a ton of apples, but still no recipe! So I just threw in the ingredients as I could remember them hoping that it would turn out okay.

I had scheduled a "training" for my table hostesses the day of the big seder only to discover that the tables at the hotel were set wrong. When I went to the manager that I had spoken with, guess WHO had taken the day off? You guessed it! So we were starting from Ground Zero with the waiters and waitresses as lost as my own people!

When I came out of the kitchen I couldn't hear myself think! This was a combined meeting with a Christian men's group, and they had decided without consulting me to furnish some Country Gospel singing group from Houston as a "surprise" for the guests. The group was setting up and tuning their instruments all around my already confused hostesses and hotel staff. ...a phrase that I learned from a rabbi friend years later is "Oivey!" That basically means "Now what do you do!" That seemed very appropriate at that time! "Oivey!"

I had all the haggadahs laid out to distribute when each person arrived and presented their ticket, right? WRONG! The person who was suppose to collect the tickets didn't show up, and so everyone just helped themselves to as many haggadot as they wanted. My eyes were crossed by that time, okay?

So, I very calmly screamed at the top of my lungs, "Would everyone please leave the room? PLEASE! I need to finish setting the tables." The hostesses turned obediently to me. The gospel group decided to take the hint. The hotel staff ran for the kitchen with my mother in fast pursuit. And I calmly had everyone check their tables with tears running down my now red cheeks. We counted bowls and spoons, and so forth...until we were sure that everything was ready.

Then, we allowed everyone to enter the room and I waited to make my escape....

The greetings were exchanged, and then the gospel group stood up to sing. But they had learned during the break that this was a passover, and graciously bowed out to let the musicians and singers that we had chosen weeks before open the service. (The Lord had been specific about who was to sing what and in what order when I had prayed. And so it was to be HIS music and not man's noise.] Baruch haShem! (Praise be the Name Above All Names!) By the second song there wasn't a dry eye in the crowd! Even the singers had to stop singing in order to wipe their faces with handkerchiefs! Silence filled that room with a depth of holiness like few have ever experienced. We all looked around and knew that somehow, someway, we were in HIS presence as never before! You could have heard a pin drop! HE WAS THERE!

The service continued without a hitch. During the eating of the meal, people got up and mingled with each other. They made an amazing discovery...not one person had left their chair during the seder to go to the restroom. After all that grape juice, too! HE was in charge of everything, and we knew it!

When we closed the evening we knew without a shadow of a doubt that many lives were changed. We cleared the tables and started putting everything away.

....One more funny remark here and I will get down to the serious outcome of the event, okay? My mother was a table hostess for the evening. No matter what I do, she is always there to support me. I don't know what I would do without my precious mother. Anyway, she was dutifully trying to clear her four tables while I did my hostess things, and she was making trip after trip to the kitchen at the far end of the huge hotel. Finally I saw her eyes fly open and she let out a scream, "Oh, no you don't, Mister!" She had been trying to empty her four water basins and four pitchers. Every time she would carry a pitcher to the kitchen to dump it, she would come back to discover more water in another pitcher on one of her other tables. So she would take that pitcher and dump it all the way in the kitchen. Over and over she would carry another pitcher to the kitchen only to return to find still another one full! So finally she came back to find the hotel staff DUMPING THE WATER GLASSES FROM ALL THE TABLES into her pitchers! Mom thought it was the bottomless sea!!! [Now everyone in unison say that word together, okay? One-two-three----"Oivey!"] To this day my mother NEVER volunteers to be a table hostess, okay? back to the big finish on this tale...

When our first Passover Seder was over, my son came up to me and told me that he had a vision during the Seder. I want to share this with you:

"We were sitting there in the hotel restaurant and the walls disappeared," said my son. "We were all in our places but held in a giant hand. It was the hand of God. The leader was at the front table and every time he would read or teach, God would smile from up above down on the leader. But every time we would respond from the Haggadah, God would smile bigger. As we moved into the Great Hallel God smiled still bigger and started to rejoice with us! And as we finished with "L'shanah ha-ba-a Birushalayim" (Next year in Jerusalem) God's tears flooded over us with His rejoicing!"

So, now you understand what doing a passover can be like. I sat down the night of that first passover with my computer and wrote ten pages of notes so I wouldn't forget what I needed to know for next year. I gave the leader a copy as he left, and thought that was the end of it. But it wasn't. About 8 months later the leader's office called me. It seems as if they had been sending out copies of my notes all over the world to people who wanted to know how to do a passover. "What?" I screamed into the phone. "My misspelled-hurried-in-the-middle-of-the-night-notes are going where???" They were calling because they had lost their copy and wanted to see if I had mine. "Yes, I do," and now they are here for everyone to use...they are called The Anti-Panic Passover Guide.

So, you've laughed and hopefully rejoiced with me over our first passover. And I pray that you will allow my story to minister to you, too. You see when HE asks you to come to HIS TABLE and see HIM revealed in all of HIS GLORY---as HE intended--your life will be changed. Right now, just ask HIM to show you what HE wants you to do this passover season. IF you ask, HE will answer...

L'shanah ha-ba-a Birushalayim! Next year in Jerusalem...and how about this year sharing with us here in Kansas? We promise to make it look simple...just remember that the door is always open for you at our passover.

Shalom, Dear Friends,
Cheryle Holeman

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